What Does Your Sleeping Position Reveal About Your Relationship?

For those loved up this Valentine's Day a bespoke Couples Mattress could be the perfect gift for your other half.

Ever got into an argument about what mattress to buy? Couldn't agree on the firmness? Bed Guru couples mattress could solve all of your mattress dilemmas. With a split firmness you can both have the mattress firmness you want. 

So once you've got your mattress sorted has it ever crossed your mind what the position you sleep in could expose about your relationship?

Whether you’re attracted like magnets or prefer to take full advantage of your own space, our unconscious decisions in the bedroom might say more about our relationships than we think!

Have a look at some of the most popular sleeping positions below, you never know what you might find out!

The Classic Spoon

Perhaps the most recognised romantic embrace, the classic spoon is the position of choice for relationships new and old. Dead arms and mouthfuls of hair aside, spooning is a reassuring sign of mutual trust and protection. Be aware though, the spoon can also be a short-lived novelty for new and blossoming relationships, so proceed with caution.

Bed Guru Spoon sleeping position

The Starfish

Sprawling across the bed and not giving a second thought as to the comfort of your partner is unsurprisingly pretty selfish. Enjoying our own space every now and again is perfectly normal behaviour, especially if the bedroom is warm! But regular neglect of your partner and their quality of sleep could be a sign of imbalance in the relationship.

 Bed Guru sleeping position starfish


At first glance it’s easy to believe that back to back sleeping spells bad news. In reality, it’s just a different take on spooning that allows both parties to get a decent night’s sleep! Around a quarter of British couples favour the position for striking a nice balance between comfort and intimacy.

 Bed Guru Sleeping position back to back

The Logs

Not winning any awards for intimacy, sleeping side by side is the default position for many couples. Despite preconceptions that it only happens once the spark has died out, some psychologists agree that it demonstrates a relationship that is actually very secure. It indicates trust, independence and fairness, making it the most popular sleeping position.

 Bed Guru couples mattresses

The Magnets

A sure-fire way of distinguishing the early stages of a relationship, the magnet involves being quite literally too close for comfort. It is essentially a mash up of limbs in an effort to be as close to the other person as possible. Unlatching only takes place when one person discovers that getting a decent night’s sleep in this position is almost impossible. It also turns out that being too dependent on each other can be damaging in the long run!

 bed guru sleeping position magnet

Top ‘N’ Tail

Unless you love your partners feet more than their face, top ‘n’ tailing as you can probably guess, suggests an unhealthy time in the relationship. It’s the closest thing to sleeping in separate beds entirely, which can only spell uncertainty. With that said, if you’re sleeping top ‘n’ tail, chances are you are already well aware of the current state of your relationship and should seek to resolve it!

 Bed Guru sleeping positions

The unfortunate reality of relationships is that it’s not always going to be plain sailing. Sometimes, sleep simply doesn’t want to happen, and it would be unfair to always shift the blame onto your other half.

Nobody should have to compromise on sleep however, which is why we’ve introduced Bed Guru Bespoke Couples Mattresses!

Simply tell us a little bit about you and your partner using our short questionnaire, and we’ll present you with a mattress tailored to your unique sleeping requirements.

Featuring sides that work independently to support your body and seamlessly joined together, the only difference you’ll notice will be your quality of sleep.

With a Couples Mattress you have a stronger chance of staying (and sleeping) together long after Valentine’s Day!